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Tom's March 2013 Newsletter
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Friday, 12 April 2013 08:39


Philanthropy and Philandering
I asked a businessman once: “ How is your philanthropy going?” His response was unexpected. He said, “ I stopped.  I knew it was wrong. I told her I could no longer do it.”  I quickly realized that he thought I had asked, “How is your philandering?”

The two behaviours are hard to confuse! The philanderer seeks to do something unethical, immoral and hidden.  Often narcissistic, they misuse others; trapped in a web of self-justification and denial.
The philanthropist openly uses their wealth to aid others.

A person who cheats on another could be ethical in business, a good parent and philanthropist.  A financially generous individual could be an unethical, unscrupulous person who engages in illicit relationships.

The religious community often focuses on sexual sins, such as unfaithfulness, and at times is quick to give major donors the benefit of the doubt on their personal or business behaviour.  Secular society seldom judges one’s personal moral actions and often fawns undiscerning over philanthropists.

Scripture offers us some perspective on these issues:
The Lord sees not as a person sees; they look on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart. 1 Samuel 16:7,8

Let us not love in word or speech but in deed and in truth. 1 John 3:18

As we personally deal with the complicated and alluring issues of money and sex we all need both close friends and God's wisdom bringing
love and truth into the struggle.

And as for God “knowing our hearts” as we navigate life, this realization most likely brings us both comfort and disquiet.  It was probably meant to!


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